False Alarm
I was minding my own business on Friday night when I received a provocative email.
The subject line said, “Possible Situation” and when I saw that the email was from my attorney, Britney, my heart skipped a beat.
Could this be it?
My hands were shaking as I opened. This is what it said:
“Eva, take a look at the email below and let me know if you are interested.
Adoptive Family Wanted
- African American or Bi-racial family desired for a baby girl
- Single Mother or female same-sex couple acceptable.
- Christian (“God-believers”)
- Birthmother: AA, ,19 y/o– college student
- Birthfather: AA, 24 y/o — 12th grade drop-out
- Good, early pre-natal care/ Insurance coverage
- Birthmother denies alcohol, drugs, history of anxiety disorders and asthma.
- Birthmother is receiving professional counseling.
- Birthparents are related.
- Family supports placement.
Interested parties to send profiles by Feb. 2″
Okay, well, I saw some questionable elements in the profile, but I immediately reached for the phone to call Nadia anyway. Her phone rang for a few minutes and then went to voice mail. I, then, decided to text her, just in case, she was in a meeting and able to respond quickly but I didn’t hear back from her for at least 15 minutes.
So I decided to call my attorney. I was feeling a little apprehensive about the situation but since it was Friday at 7PM, I thought it would be best to get as much information as possible before we started the weekend.
When I called my attorney, she sounded really rushed. She has caller ID so she knew it was me, ” “Hi! I only have a few minutes, but did you get my email?”
“Okay, well,” I said, “I just wanted to ask you about that. I wanted to know if you had any more information about the birth parents relationship and…?
Britney cut me off.
“Well, if you are interested, we need to send the profiles to the attorney by February 2nd.
Well, that’s just it, the profiles says, February 2nd, but it’s March 26th, Britney.
“OMIGOD, OMIGOD, I’m so sorry! I’m so sorry!” she stammered. “That was an old email and I really should not have sent that to you, but don’t worry, your baby is out there.”
“That’s okay, ” I said, a little shell-shocked.
I hung up the phone, feeling relieved, sad, and a slightly pissed.
That’s a horrible false alarm! I totally understand the little relieved part & the slightly pissed! I will be praying for you!
1That sounds annoying. Britney needs to be more sensitive.
2Oh, I’m so sorry.
3That’s so annoying and unprofessional and, above all, disappointing.
4arrrgh! a whole new kind of BFN (or BFm for mistake). sorry
5So sorry about the disappointment. That sucks!
ICLW
6Oh wow… that’s just wrong
7Well, I suppose it is a bit of a relief. That sounded a bit strange to me! Hopefully you will get that call/e-mail that will be the right one meant for you! Hugs from ICLW (#25 & #27)
8that was just wrong! i hope that a bundle shows up for you soon.
and aside – i hadn’t conceptualized before this that some children offered up for adoption could have birth parents that are related. could you go a little more into this, or send me some information. i guess i’m kinda wondering the ramifications of this on the adoption and on the child, and wondering if this complicates situations legally.
9I was holding my breath reading this.
10sigh
but seriously hoping another e-mail shows up soon
ok, that would make me crazy. Yikes.
11What a disappointment. I know the situation would have come with challenges but seriously!? How did she miss the date range??
12Oh my gosh. How hard to go through those emotions!
13I think somehow your blog fell off my reader. I thought that you were still on that extended hiatus (which is pretty much where I’ve been). I clicked over to see if you’d posted recently and got all heartfluttery when I began reading this post. And then – damn.
Hugs.
(but I found you again, so yay!)
(((big hugs again)))
14Not knowing how the process works, is it totally naive of me to suggest that you ask your lawyer to follow up on it anyway? Just because you never know?
15AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHDFSSSGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
WTF!
Dude. That is fucked up.
16(((HUGS)))
Ok that was just a really really mean thing and unprofessional to boot…Tugging at your heart strings like that urghhh
17So sorry hon…
Kisses!
We had a situation where we submitted our profile (blindly) and we were accepted – and then we changed our minds. I sobbed, terrified that after all that time, I’d never get another chance. We did. Hang in there!
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