Comments on: The Blanket http://www.mommieshere.com/2009/12/22/the-blanket/ Two Brides, One Adoption Story Wed, 18 Jan 2012 16:35:10 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.1 hourly 1 By: This Week’s Teachable Moment: The Ones Who Love You | The Egg Drop Post http://www.mommieshere.com/2009/12/22/the-blanket/comment-page-1/#comment-2502 This Week’s Teachable Moment: The Ones Who Love You | The Egg Drop Post Tue, 23 Feb 2010 02:54:35 +0000 http://www.eggdroppost.com/?p=666#comment-2502 [...] blood-is-thicker-than-water family. After our conversation, I  thought of my December post about The Blanket and how I had worked myself into a frenzy feeling all nervous about how my family would respond [...] [...] blood-is-thicker-than-water family. After our conversation, I  thought of my December post about The Blanket and how I had worked myself into a frenzy feeling all nervous about how my family would respond [...]

]]> By: oneofhismoms http://www.mommieshere.com/2009/12/22/the-blanket/comment-page-1/#comment-2272 oneofhismoms Sun, 27 Dec 2009 01:03:27 +0000 http://www.eggdroppost.com/?p=666#comment-2272 I don't know your family. But I am typing here in the den of my partner's mother's house. In South Carloina. About 250 feet away from their Pentacostal church. Again, I don't know your family. But my partner's brothers, who once called homosexuality an abomination to her face, even though they pretty much knew she is gay, they are all here. And they love my baby up, even though not one ounce of his blood is biological to them. And they love me, even though I am the white lesbian partner of their sister. They call me their "sister in-love." I don't know your family, but I hope they will do the same thing. XOXOXO I don’t know your family. But I am typing here in the den of my partner’s mother’s house. In South Carloina. About 250 feet away from their Pentacostal church. Again, I don’t know your family. But my partner’s brothers, who once called homosexuality an abomination to her face, even though they pretty much knew she is gay, they are all here. And they love my baby up, even though not one ounce of his blood is biological to them. And they love me, even though I am the white lesbian partner of their sister. They call me their “sister in-love.” I don’t know your family, but I hope they will do the same thing.

XOXOXO

]]> By: Sarah http://www.mommieshere.com/2009/12/22/the-blanket/comment-page-1/#comment-2258 Sarah Fri, 25 Dec 2009 04:46:29 +0000 http://www.eggdroppost.com/?p=666#comment-2258 I think we've talked about this off line a bit, but I had some of the same needs from a bio/genetic child--I needed to give birth to my brother who died before I was born. I used to always assume I'd give my child his name as a middle name. After all this mishigas really got under way, and I realized that i wasn't going to be able to be sure of having a genetic child I talked to my mom about it, and she was so suprised that I'd made that link for myself, and she absolved me of that job. that is different that your situation, but why your story sparked it was that I wanted a baby to do something, something it may have never been able to do anyway. I wish your family could accept and love you as you are, because you are marvel. I think we’ve talked about this off line a bit, but I had some of the same needs from a bio/genetic child–I needed to give birth to my brother who died before I was born. I used to always assume I’d give my child his name as a middle name. After all this mishigas really got under way, and I realized that i wasn’t going to be able to be sure of having a genetic child I talked to my mom about it, and she was so suprised that I’d made that link for myself, and she absolved me of that job. that is different that your situation, but why your story sparked it was that I wanted a baby to do something, something it may have never been able to do anyway. I wish your family could accept and love you as you are, because you are marvel.

]]> By: Linda Fulkerson http://www.mommieshere.com/2009/12/22/the-blanket/comment-page-1/#comment-2251 Linda Fulkerson Wed, 23 Dec 2009 15:52:33 +0000 http://www.eggdroppost.com/?p=666#comment-2251 One of my best friends went through 2 decades (and four husbands) of TTC before starting the adoption process. She just sent me a Christmas card last week with pics of her three little ones (ages 2, 3 & 4) along with the words, "It's finally official -- they're ours!" Wishing you the best in this journey! -- Linda (via ICLW) One of my best friends went through 2 decades (and four husbands) of TTC before starting the adoption process. She just sent me a Christmas card last week with pics of her three little ones (ages 2, 3 & 4) along with the words, “It’s finally official — they’re ours!” Wishing you the best in this journey! — Linda (via ICLW)

]]> By: Eva http://www.mommieshere.com/2009/12/22/the-blanket/comment-page-1/#comment-2249 Eva Wed, 23 Dec 2009 01:12:47 +0000 http://www.eggdroppost.com/?p=666#comment-2249 Yes, deathstar44, when I started on this journey, like most people, I definitely wanted a "mini-me" but that didn't happen. So now, I look towards the field with expanded horizons, the field where I can lovingly embrace the little spirit that enters my world through open adoption. I'll meet you there. Yes, deathstar44, when I started on this journey, like most people, I definitely wanted a “mini-me” but that didn’t happen. So now, I look towards the field with expanded horizons, the field where I can lovingly embrace the little spirit that enters my world through open adoption. I’ll meet you there.

]]> By: Al http://www.mommieshere.com/2009/12/22/the-blanket/comment-page-1/#comment-2247 Al Tue, 22 Dec 2009 23:35:54 +0000 http://www.eggdroppost.com/?p=666#comment-2247 Aww, a very sweet text! I wish you the best of luck to you as you pursue adoption. I hope your family will surprise you and welcome your little one with open arms, just as your friend will. Aww, a very sweet text! I wish you the best of luck to you as you pursue adoption. I hope your family will surprise you and welcome your little one with open arms, just as your friend will.

]]> By: deathstar44 http://www.mommieshere.com/2009/12/22/the-blanket/comment-page-1/#comment-2246 deathstar44 Tue, 22 Dec 2009 22:37:42 +0000 http://www.eggdroppost.com/?p=666#comment-2246 Mmm, everybody just wants accepted and loved, it's a pretty basic need. The hardest part of wrapping your mind around adoption is that it is NOT the same thing as having your own biological child - not in the fact that it doesn't FEEL the same, just in the fact that there will be a different genetic link as to why his or her eyes or face or chin or nose looks the way it does. So if people are looking to see that as a way to open their hearts, they will be disappointed. But if they open their hearts as to tiny human being who just wants love and acceptance and family, they will be rewarded. Family isn't just what you look like, but what you embrace. Mmm, everybody just wants accepted and loved, it’s a pretty basic need. The hardest part of wrapping your mind around adoption is that it is NOT the same thing as having your own biological child – not in the fact that it doesn’t FEEL the same, just in the fact that there will be a different genetic link as to why his or her eyes or face or chin or nose looks the way it does. So if people are looking to see that as a way to open their hearts, they will be disappointed. But if they open their hearts as to tiny human being who just wants love and acceptance and family, they will be rewarded. Family isn’t just what you look like, but what you embrace.

]]> By: Bree http://www.mommieshere.com/2009/12/22/the-blanket/comment-page-1/#comment-2244 Bree Tue, 22 Dec 2009 17:03:50 +0000 http://www.eggdroppost.com/?p=666#comment-2244 That text message made me a little misty. What a wonderful way to tell you that she supports your future motherhood, regardless of how you achieve it. I can't wait to see a picture of your baby (or their toes or whatever you choose to post) in that blanket of love. That text message made me a little misty. What a wonderful way to tell you that she supports your future motherhood, regardless of how you achieve it. I can’t wait to see a picture of your baby (or their toes or whatever you choose to post) in that blanket of love.

]]> By: Rain http://www.mommieshere.com/2009/12/22/the-blanket/comment-page-1/#comment-2243 Rain Tue, 22 Dec 2009 17:00:46 +0000 http://www.eggdroppost.com/?p=666#comment-2243 What a beautiful message your friend sent you. How wonderful to have such a close friend for so long. My father is very much into lineage, genes, and our Swiss/Italian heritage. He's not terribly supportive of our decision to pursue adoption. It kills me that he is not excited about our choice, but I have to move on from that. I hope that your family comes around and sees your child as the embodiment of the love that you have with your partner. Happy Tuesday. What a beautiful message your friend sent you. How wonderful to have such a close friend for so long.

My father is very much into lineage, genes, and our Swiss/Italian heritage. He’s not terribly supportive of our decision to pursue adoption. It kills me that he is not excited about our choice, but I have to move on from that.

I hope that your family comes around and sees your child as the embodiment of the love that you have with your partner.

Happy Tuesday.

]]> By: cindyhoo2 http://www.mommieshere.com/2009/12/22/the-blanket/comment-page-1/#comment-2242 cindyhoo2 Tue, 22 Dec 2009 14:49:56 +0000 http://www.eggdroppost.com/?p=666#comment-2242 What an amazing and sweet thing for your friend to say to you. It tears me up a bit. This whole TTC experience has made me realize that most people are not that sensitive and that the people who are truly sensitive are to be cherished for life. I am glad you have a few of those people in your day to day world. As for the biobaby thing, yep! My family has aways seen me as odd even before I came out. Even though my fam and I arer still close, I thought that ME having a baby would make my parents love him/her more. I don't know what their response will be to a baby birthed by Joey or a baby I might adopt (especially mixed race-- which I would be fine with but they might stroke over). I think we all want to be utterly pulled into the fold and we never want our child to have that outside feel. Also yesterday's post touched me deeply. I was pondering and could not even respond after I read it. That was beautiful and you will be a wonderful minister because you have the ability to get to the heart of things so well. What an amazing and sweet thing for your friend to say to you. It tears me up a bit. This whole TTC experience has made me realize that most people are not that sensitive and that the people who are truly sensitive are to be cherished for life. I am glad you have a few of those people in your day to day world.

As for the biobaby thing, yep! My family has aways seen me as odd even before I came out. Even though my fam and I arer still close, I thought that ME having a baby would make my parents love him/her more. I don’t know what their response will be to a baby birthed by Joey or a baby I might adopt (especially mixed race– which I would be fine with but they might stroke over). I think we all want to be utterly pulled into the fold and we never want our child to have that outside feel.

Also yesterday’s post touched me deeply. I was pondering and could not even respond after I read it. That was beautiful and you will be a wonderful minister because you have the ability to get to the heart of things so well.

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