Comments on: Faces of Adoption

By: thebao

thebao — Tue, 15 Dec 2009 19:44:49 +0000

Ugh, I’m sorry you had to be the poster children for Alternative Adoption Families. I’m sure he was well-intentioned but seriously, that guy was too much.
It’s fascinating how many race/socio-economic-status issues are tied up in adoption. Sounds like y’all are making the right decision to go with an attorney. Good luck with the homestudy.

By: Next in Line

Next in Line — Tue, 15 Dec 2009 19:34:30 +0000

That is is just too much to be put in the hot seat like that. I hope you can find an agency that you are comfortable with and respects you and the children that it is placing.

We had the opposite experience of being a bi racial gay couple who were in workshops with straight white couples adopting Asian children. Despite that my partner grew up in an Asian country and speaks three dialects, we weren’t allowed to adopt from any Asian countries and were told to respect their culture. That fact that F is Chinese and it was her culture too was ignored. It was disheartening.

Racism and injustice are so much a part of adoption and it really requires strength to go through it and find a way to create a family that feels right for you.

Thank goodness for the penguin story. Adoption can be so beautiful and sweet.

By: cindyhoo2

cindyhoo2 — Tue, 15 Dec 2009 01:57:35 +0000

To start: I LOVE the gay pengiun dad story. I actually teared up a little.

And how awful to be THE GAYS and the CONSPICUOS AFRICAN AMERICAN in the session. Then to have the presenter be soooo focused on you guys. Good information but bad understanding of how you feel. yuck!

And transracial is not a term I have heard before: it sounds like someone is transitioning from one race to another. Weird.