That therapist needs to read my paper–what dumb thing to say. I wouldn’t go back either. You need somone to bear witness to your pain, not to try to tie it up in a bow. Yeesh.

I sought a therapist after IVF #3 and I specifically chose someone who had experience with infertility patients. I went in being very clear: I needed a place to talk about my pain in safety. I needed someone to sit with me in my pain and not feel the need to fix it or use platitudes or any of the other well-intentioned but painful things people do when they don’t get it. Sadly, my therapist was too uncomfortable with my pain and she could not just.be. She gave me a referral to a new RE clinic at the second visit and she called herself the “holder of my hope” until “I am ready.” BARF! Now realize that I am a therapist so I can talk the talk with the best of them. I couldn’t even cry in her office because she so desperately needed me to be okay when I just wasn’t. As you might imagine, I have not returned. But I still plan to find the right therapist at the new year (when my insurance changes). I am just certain that someone out there can listen without jumping into fixing.

As for the Buddha quote: perfect! Buddhist writings really resonate with me when I am most in pain and am seeking a quiet space in my head. I hope your meditation helps you figure out a way to manage the memories and hurts of the last 3 years.