50-50
As planned, Nadia and I went to the doctor last Friday. I’m still trying to process it and figure out what it all means.
But anyhoo, he said that the fact that I made 18 eggs this time means that I’m not a ‘poor responder’ and that I should definitely try it again. As soon as he said that, I heard a cash register in my head. He said that at my age and with that kind of response, my chances of getting pregnant were about 50%.
According to Dr. Yoda, there are many reasons why this cycle may have failed:
1. Bad eggs
2. Bad sperm
3. Just plain ol’ bad luck
He said that we could start again as early as next month with the estrogen and co-culture stuff. He would do the same protocol but maybe start with a lower dosage. The fact that I had 18 eggs, but 10 immature suggests, according to him, that I should have been on meds for a couple more days.
I don’t know. I’m happy that he said my chances are 50-50 but psychologically I feel very depleted.
I’m am very torn and grateful that Nadia decided to wait one month from my BFN to make any decisions.
a lot to process to be sure… will be thinking of you while you and nadia work out how to proceed.
1you have already gone beyond the bounds of bravery. i know that whatever you decide will be what’s best for you and your family. and please, know that we are still here rooting for you, whichever course you decide.
2wow! that sure is a lot to mull over. Just remember there is no wrong decision. I’ll be thinking of you two.
3A 50% chance of success sounds pretty good to me, but I think in the end you and Nadia need to do what is right for you regardless of the odds for success. Of course, figuring out what is right for you and reaching agreement as a couple is not always such an easy thing. We are thinking of you and wish you the best regardless of where you end up going from here. Take care of yourself.
4Best of luck with your decision. I’ll be thinking of you.
5I’m glad he gave you some good news, but I know it’s not an easy decision with all that you have both been through. You’ve got a few more weeks. I do believe the answers will come–and it will be the right decision. Call me if you need to talk–we could do lunch next week.
6Many hugs. PPs have said it all. Take the time you need to get to the right answer for your family…I know you and Nadia can do it.
7Hey sweetie. Oh my; what a lot to process. I’m glad he had an explanation fro the immature eggs. My thoughts are with you.
8Thinking of you and Nadia as you process that meeting and think about your next steps.
9thinking of you!
10lots to think over, so take your time. The little thought that keeps coming back is usually the right answer, but you know that.
Sending love to both of you.
11This is a lot to take in and process and I think waiting to make the right decision sounds perfect. You guys will figure it all out and make the right choice. Best of luck to you and many, many hugs.
12Hi, I just found your blog and want to offer my support. I have had 3 failed IVFs and the grieving process is considerable. I am sorry that you are having to face the choices and decisions you are dealing with. I have chosen to move on to donor eggs but it took me a long time to get to this place (and secretly I still dream about ways to end up pregnant with my own eggs). I hope you find peace soon. ((hugs))
13Wow a tough decision to make…good luck in whatever you decide. Thinking of u both.
14It’s good to hear that the doctor did have some good news for you. But you are right, this is a lot to process. Take your time and you guys will come to the right decision. Good luck, we’re thinking of you and sending hugs!!
15You will know what to do when the time is right. Best wishes to you both.
16Hey Miss Eva–where are you?
17Eva thinking of you…hoping you both are ok and can send an update sometime…sending you love…xoD
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