Comments on: Help Wanted: Moving Beyond the BFN

By: Co

Co — Mon, 15 Jun 2009 18:31:53 +0000

I think those are great questions and I’m glad you went to that picnic. I hope you are able to get some answers today.

By: jaymee

jaymee — Sun, 14 Jun 2009 18:35:30 +0000

i think you covered it all. hope you get some good answers.

By: Next in Line

Next in Line — Sun, 14 Jun 2009 04:21:38 +0000

I wish all the best for you on this journey. I really like Sarah’s comment. She is very insightful. Sometimes numbers and statistics are only half the picture. I hope you got some good answers and figure out what you need to do.

By: Puffer

Puffer — Fri, 12 Jun 2009 12:52:59 +0000

Thinking of you this morning and hope you get some good answers.

By: K

Fri, 12 Jun 2009 03:57:33 +0000

It is not unusual to have failed IVF cycle. It is unusual to retrieve 18 eggs and have no mature eggs fertilize, particularly using ICSI, so I would want to get as much detail as possible about how that could happen and why. I would not necessarily assume the problem is your eggs. There could be issues with the sperm or with the lab. I know you are at the top clinic, so the lab is good in general, but even in the best can still have their off days and mistakes happen.

By: oneofhismoms

oneofhismoms — Fri, 12 Jun 2009 00:12:33 +0000

My sister adopted internationally and I have two friends who did open domestic adoptions, if you want me to hook you up with them I can. Though it seems like you already have a community of adoptive parents and your honey.

I think the first question was the best one.

By: Dora

Dora — Thu, 11 Jun 2009 20:58:19 +0000

The only thing I can think to add to your list of questions is asking about further testing, i.e., immune and thrombophilia.

Otherwise, I agree with Sarah’s comments. Figuring out what’s really important to you will guide your questions and your next steps. For me, since my response to stims was SO abysmal, I knew I had to give up the genetic connection quickly, but being pregnant was/is very important to me. Not everyone feels this way. Giving up this would have been a much greater loss than the genetic connection to me. Interestingly, once I let go of the genetic connection, I keep thinking of things I’m glad I’m NOT passing on!

Good luck tomorrow.

By: queerstork

queerstork — Thu, 11 Jun 2009 20:16:27 +0000

I don’t have a lot to give or offer, I just want to give you a hug and wish that you get your little one soon.

By: NoodleGirl

NoodleGirl — Thu, 11 Jun 2009 17:24:07 +0000

Hi Eva, I totally understand how you’re feeling, I’m currently in mourning myself. It’s becoming pretty apparent to me too, after my 1st IVF (also on estrogen priming protocol and after 10 days of very high stimming and only getting one freaking follie) that I likely will not be having my own biological child either. It’s a crushing blow, but as you said, it helps to keep in motion.

The list of questions you have for your RE is a great start and I’m sure other things will come up as you’re chatting. If you ever get to the point of donor eggs, I’ve compiled a pretty good list of questions about donor eggs. Let me know if you’re ever interested in it, I can email it over.

I’m so sorry about having no luck so far, but I really believe that you and Nadia will be parents one day. Just like I know I will be.

By: nycphoenix

nycphoenix — Thu, 11 Jun 2009 17:10:04 +0000

I think you have most of the questions down but I wanted to give you the links to my questions since unfortunately we have similar IVF experiences:

http://nycphoenix.wordpress.com/2006/11/28/preparing-for-paisan/

http://nycphoenix.wordpress.com/2007/02/15/pondering-with-paisan-ii/

A couple of ppl on IVFC boards have mentioned doing both EPP (which is what Big Clinic offers) and Clomid + Stims (Which is what my old clinic offers) and that they had better recsults at retrieval and fertilization with the Clomid cycle