Comments on: Altered States: A Hamster Wheel With A View http://www.mommieshere.com/2008/08/06/humpty-dumpty-heathcare/ Two Brides, One Adoption Story Wed, 18 Jan 2012 16:35:10 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.1 hourly 1 By: Mo http://www.mommieshere.com/2008/08/06/humpty-dumpty-heathcare/comment-page-1/#comment-851 Mo Sat, 09 Aug 2008 10:41:08 +0000 http://www.eggdroppost.com/?p=407#comment-851 Mo here delurking to add my two cents: I went to a really good RE in NY. He was very lesbian friendly. Even let my partner do the IUIs both times. The second time resulting in our lovely daughter! He is a great guy and has assisted in getting others pregnant in a short amount of time. Not sure if you are interested in making a switch at this point. E-mail me if you interested. Mo here delurking to add my two cents:

I went to a really good RE in NY. He was very lesbian friendly. Even let my partner do the IUIs both times. The second time resulting in our lovely daughter! He is a great guy and has assisted in getting others pregnant in a short amount of time. Not sure if you are interested in making a switch at this point. E-mail me if you interested.

]]> By: jen http://www.mommieshere.com/2008/08/06/humpty-dumpty-heathcare/comment-page-1/#comment-850 jen Fri, 08 Aug 2008 18:24:21 +0000 http://www.eggdroppost.com/?p=407#comment-850 I can completely relate. Try not to let these exterior factors squish your spirit. Your post was both heart-wrenching and poetic but know that you are not alone. I had to explain to the receptionist this week that the FedEx package that just arrived was our swimmers. She had no idea what I meant until the doctor talked to her. I thought it was hilarious...esp. since we (Tiff and I and the swimmers) arrived at the office at the same moment! Humor always helps me gain perspective and cope. Baby dust, baby dust.... I can completely relate. Try not to let these exterior factors squish your spirit. Your post was both heart-wrenching and poetic but know that you are not alone. I had to explain to the receptionist this week that the FedEx package that just arrived was our swimmers. She had no idea what I meant until the doctor talked to her. I thought it was hilarious…esp. since we (Tiff and I and the swimmers) arrived at the office at the same moment! Humor always helps me gain perspective and cope. Baby dust, baby dust….

]]> By: sara http://www.mommieshere.com/2008/08/06/humpty-dumpty-heathcare/comment-page-1/#comment-849 sara Fri, 08 Aug 2008 15:50:04 +0000 http://www.eggdroppost.com/?p=407#comment-849 I think this is so important and I am so glad that you wrote about it here. You have every right to feel angry and insulted-- this process is hard enough without those we are supposed to place our trust in making it even more difficult. Thanks for this great post. And . . . check my blog! You have won an award! I think this is so important and I am so glad that you wrote about it here. You have every right to feel angry and insulted– this process is hard enough without those we are supposed to place our trust in making it even more difficult. Thanks for this great post.

And . . . check my blog! You have won an award!

]]> By: Kymberli http://www.mommieshere.com/2008/08/06/humpty-dumpty-heathcare/comment-page-1/#comment-848 Kymberli Fri, 08 Aug 2008 04:37:43 +0000 http://www.eggdroppost.com/?p=407#comment-848 One thing you should not feel is guilt. You're every bit as entitled to feel insulted, hurt, and disappointed by the lack of consideration and lags in respect for who you are as a straight client would be if something similar happened to her. You shouldn't feel guilted into accepting the emotional maltreatment you've received just because you're able to continue treatment with IVF. Demanding the respect you deserve doesn't mean that you're any less grateful for the financial/insurance advantage that you have. "...I can't put 'lesbian' down as a diagnosis." What? Does she think lesbians can't be infertile? Grrrr. So sorry that you have to put up with that. One thing you should not feel is guilt. You’re every bit as entitled to feel insulted, hurt, and disappointed by the lack of consideration and lags in respect for who you are as a straight client would be if something similar happened to her. You shouldn’t feel guilted into accepting the emotional maltreatment you’ve received just because you’re able to continue treatment with IVF. Demanding the respect you deserve doesn’t mean that you’re any less grateful for the financial/insurance advantage that you have.

“…I can’t put ‘lesbian’ down as a diagnosis.” What? Does she think lesbians can’t be infertile? Grrrr.

So sorry that you have to put up with that.

]]> By: Sarah http://www.mommieshere.com/2008/08/06/humpty-dumpty-heathcare/comment-page-1/#comment-846 Sarah Thu, 07 Aug 2008 21:04:56 +0000 http://www.eggdroppost.com/?p=407#comment-846 Funny how we supress and go on living , and then Wham! We're slammed right back. I don't believe in universal justice, but if I did I'd say that it is sweet justice that you have IVF coverage--to pay out of pocket and be treated as if you aren't worth remembering would be an even larger load to bear. Funny how we supress and go on living , and then Wham! We’re slammed right back. I don’t believe in universal justice, but if I did I’d say that it is sweet justice that you have IVF coverage–to pay out of pocket and be treated as if you aren’t worth remembering would be an even larger load to bear.

]]> By: queerstork http://www.mommieshere.com/2008/08/06/humpty-dumpty-heathcare/comment-page-1/#comment-845 queerstork Thu, 07 Aug 2008 01:47:14 +0000 http://www.eggdroppost.com/?p=407#comment-845 This post is one of the reasons why I love your blog. You capture so eloquently exactly how I feel! Crazy-making. Difficult. This process is slowly changing me too. This post is one of the reasons why I love your blog. You capture so eloquently exactly how I feel!

Crazy-making. Difficult. This process is slowly changing me too.

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